Dare to Address Addiction: How to Take the First Step in Getting Someone Help
Posted December 26, 2023 by Mykola Kolganov, MD

Does someone you love have an addiction? You’re not alone. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services reports an estimated 46 million people in this country, aged 12 and older, suffer from substance use disorder.
Addiction, or substance use disorder, is a chronic brain disease characterized by continued use of drugs or alcohol despite its harmful consequences to the person’s health and well-being. Continued use of addictive substances triggers the release of chemicals, which alter the brain’s structure and how it works. These changes in the brain can lead to harmful and self-destructive behaviors, causing serious damage to families, relationships and workplaces.
Addiction is a disease that unfortunately affects not only the person misusing substances, but also everyone around them. If you have a loved one struggling with an alcohol or drug addiction, it may feel overwhelming on how to support them and get them—and yourself—the help you both need. But, take heart, there is hope.
Summa Health offers advice on how to spot an addiction and what you can do to get a loved one out of the trap of addiction. The fact is you can’t force someone to stop using substances or to get help before they’re ready, but you can offer your love and support, while guiding that person to enter addiction treatment when the time is right.
Signs of an alcohol or drug addiction
If a loved one’s behavior changes for no apparent reason, it could be a telltale sign of alcohol or drug use. Other common signs to look for include:
- Failing to fulfill obligations at home, work or school due to substance use
- Recurring financial issues
- Relationship problems, such as frequent arguments, sudden mood changes, secretiveness and lying
- Withdrawal from family and friends and loss of interest in favorite activities and hobbies once enjoyed
- Changes in eating or sleeping patterns, or sudden weight gain or loss
- Cognitive issues, such as memory lapses and poor concentration
- Worsening depression and anxiety over time
- Alcohol, smoke or other chemical odors on the person, red eyes or frequent “sick days”
How to talk to a loved one about addiction
Finding a way to talk with a loved one about addiction is never easy. Start by setting aside time to talk with that person when they are sober, and you’re both feeling calm and free from distractions. Also, do your research so you’re prepared and can come from a place of compassion. It’s best to approach the situation as collaborative, rather than confrontational.
To help start a conversation for positive change, follow these tips:
- Emphasize your love and concern about the person’s health and well-being.
- Offer your love and support without judgement, blaming and arguing. It can increase feelings of stress and anger and make the situation worse.
- Stick to the facts when offering the person information about how treatment can help, and ensure them that they don’t have to do it alone.
- Ask open-ended questions and then listen without interruption. Let them talk and acknowledge their feelings.
- Watch your tone of voice and body language.
- Show respect for their point of view.
- Focus on what your loved one should do, instead of what not to do.
Don’t expect a single conversation to fix the problem. It will likely take many conversations—some short, some long—to help a loved one on the road to recovery.
Getting help for someone with addiction
If a loved one is struggling with addiction, it can be difficult to know where to turn for help. There are many routes to recovery, many types of treatment programs in many types of settings.
It’s best to seek professional help to guide the process. Because addiction is a brain disease, the person typically cannot stop using substances through willpower alone.
Treatment options can include:
- Detox: Chemical dependency detoxification is often the first step in recovery. Detox helps a person safely and more comfortably manage withdrawal symptoms.
- Inpatient treatment: Patients receive around-the-clock care and support and participate in various forms of therapy to address addiction. Inpatient treatment can be in a hospital or treatment facility.
- Outpatient treatment: Intensive outpatient programs are best for individuals that require a higher level of care, but do not require hospitalization. Patients live at home, but travel to a rehab facility several times per week for therapy and support services.
- Support groups: Support groups, such as 12-step programs, provide peer support during treatment and recovery, and helps to maintain sobriety.
Helping someone overcome addiction takes time and often many tries. That’s why it’s important to never give up hope for positive change.
If you or a loved one is suffering from addiction, call Summa Health Behavioral Health Institute for help at 330.379.8190.